The skill that separates great AI users from average ones is the same skill that separates great leaders from average ones. It has nothing to do with technology.

I had an idea the other day I wanted to develop, and I went to Claude and said, essentially, "I think there's something here. Help me figure out what it is."

But I didn't just give it a task. I gave it context. I shared my why behind what I was trying to accomplish. I shared my uncertainty — that I wasn't sure exactly where it would land. And I asked it to help me get there rather than just telling it what to produce.

Silence creates more work than bad decisions.

When leadership communication slows down, people start filling in the blanks. You’ll hear questions like: Is this still a priority? Did something change? Should I move forward, or wait?

Most people don’t want to make the wrong call. So they slow down. They check with others or wait for direction.

I call this the interpretation tax.

Some of the worst strategic decisions happen in the smoothest meetings.

You’ve been in these meetings. Everyone gets along, the conversation is easy, and the discussion feels productive. The meeting ends with nods around the table and a sense of direction.

But agreement isn’t alignment.

The hardest part of communicating anything isn’t deciding what to say. It’s deciding what not to say.

Clear communication is a discipline. It means resisting the urge to add, even when adding feels helpful. It means stripping the message down to the parts that actually guide action and letting the rest go.

Alignment isn’t everyone nodding in agreement. You can’t determine alignment with a yes or no question. Alignment runs too deep for that.

True alignment is when everyone making the same decision when you’re not in the room.

When alignment isn’t real, the cracks show up fast.

Did you know the placebo effect is active in your brain every single day, not just in hospitals or clinical trials? 

Psychologists call it Expectancy Theory, and it shows that the reality we experience is driven by our expectations.

Nice is a trap. Kind is a catalyst.

At first glance, nice and kind sound like synonyms. But when coaching a team through execution, they couldn’t be further apart.

When you’re accountable for the outcome, letting go of the “how” feels risky.

If the team takes a wrong turn or misses a date, you’ll be the one explaining.

Still, trying to own every move will burn you out, disenfranchise your team, and likely leave better solutions undiscovered. Instead, define the destination; they determine the path to get there.

With (American) football season right around the corner, I’ve been revisiting some of my highlights from former 49ers coach Bill Walsh’s excellent book, The Score Takes Care of Itself. It’s packed with leadership insights that reach well beyond the field.

One section in particular stands out, especially for those of us thinking about how to build and lead effective teams. It’s called Establishing Your Standard of Performance, and the rules are pretty darn good:

There’s a mismatch in many organizations that leads to frustration, inefficiency, and that nagging “why can’t we get anything done around here?” feeling.

It’s the disconnect between Authority and Accountability.

In just the past few weeks, I’ve heard the phrase pop up in three separate conversations:

“We need to celebrate failure.”

I understand the intent. It’s about reducing fear and encouraging risk-taking. A noble goal. But I think it’s the wrong message—especially right now.

For many people, fear isn’t some abstract concept that sits quietly in the back of their minds. It’s real. It’s watching a respected colleague get laid off and wondering if your name’s next on the list. In environments like that, “celebrating failure” doesn’t feel like a courageous rallying cry. It feels disconnected. Even reckless.

And let’s be honest, nobody wants to fail.

Do you remember The Dress controversy?

Back in 2015 a washed-out photo of a striped dress split the web: half the planet saw blue-black, the rest swore it was white-gold.

I recently came across an article that explained why so many of us conclusively saw something so different. Scientists found two key drivers: (1) the photo was low quality, forcing our brain’s visual system to “repair” missing data, and (2) people’s repairs depended on the light they were used to. Regular daylight dwellers mentally subtracted bluish light and perceived white-gold; night owls tended to discount yellowish bulbs and landed on blue-black. The real split was experience-driven guesswork by the predictive brain, which constantly fills gaps with prior knowledge to keep perception running smoothly. 

That same shortcut shows up whenever leaders drop a half-lit strategy note.

Steve Jobs. Serena Williams. Yo-Yo Ma.

Different fields, same formula: they all became legends by first being obsessive followers of their craft.

The best leaders I’ve met all started as world-class followers.

"He who cannot be a good follower cannot be a good leader"- Aristotle

Think about it. Great authors read obsessively. Great musicians are fans of other great artists. Great athletes are students of the game, watching tape like it’s their job, because it is. Observing is how mastery begins.

Did you know the word priority was only ever used in the singular form for hundreds of years?

It entered the English language in the 1400s and meant the very first thing—the one item that came before all others. And for the next 500 years, that’s how it stayed. Singular. Clear. Undeniable.

Then somewhere in the 20th century, we started saying “priorities.” Plural.

As if by declaring five things “most important,” we could bend time and energy to our will. It’s like claiming there were multiple winners in a race. Everyone gets a trophy, right? But that’s not how performance works. Not in competition. Not in strategy. Real focus doesn’t allow for handing out participation ribbons. It means hard choices. It declares a winner. It says: this comes first.

It’s tempting to think of “your team” as the people who report to you. That’s where your expertise is. That’s where you feel most accountable. And that’s where the outcomes often show up on paper.

But here’s the shift that separates great managers from great leaders:

Your peer leadership team is your first team. Your function is your second.

This mindset isn’t just for the C-suite. It applies to every level of management. If you lead people, your peer group is your primary team. And the sooner you embrace that, the more your strategy, execution, and trust across the business will improve.

In theory, “What do you think?” is an open-minded, inclusive, and collaborative question.

In practice, it can be a total disaster.

Over the past few weeks, I’ve been in a handful of meetings where that question completely derailed the conversation. In each case, an idea was shared without any explanation of what problem it was solving or what objective it was trying to achieve.

The responses started rolling in.

They were enthusiastic. They were critical. They were long-winded.

We love to hate meetings.

Too many, too long, too little value. It’s the most universal workplace complaint out there. And it’s gotten so bad that “let’s not have another meeting” has practically become a badge of honor. In response, leaders and experts have doubled down on meeting hacks—timers, agendas, “no meeting Wednesdays,” or fancy door signs that declare, “This meeting could’ve been an email.”

But those are band-aids. They treat the symptoms, not the disease.

Great leadership starts with trust. And trust isn’t automatic—it’s something you build through consistent actions, honest communication, and a willingness to show up authentically.

Leaders who embrace integrity, vulnerability, and transparency create an environment where teams feel safe to take risks, admit mistakes, and align around a shared vision. These qualities don’t just strengthen relationships—they elevate execution.

We tend to see agreement as a sign of harmony, alignment, and efficient decision-making.

But when every head nods in unison, I actually get a little nervous. Either we haven’t pushed hard enough—or someone doesn’t feel safe enough to speak up.

Consensus can feel like progress. But it often signals complacency.

I’ve seen it play out over and over. A leader floats an idea. Heads nod. The meeting ends five minutes early. Victory lap, right?

Not really. That’s usually a sign we’re either solving the wrong problem or we’ve just endorsed a half-baked solution. Because if a decision is meaningful, it should spark curiosity, resistance, even discomfort.

Every organization wrestles with the challenge of implementing new strategies while keeping the current business running. Teams are already fully engaged in their “day jobs”—what’s often referred to as business as usual (BAU) or run-the-business (RTB) work. This tension between sustaining current operations and pursuing strategic change is one of the most common pitfalls in execution.

While it’s essential to continue delivering results for the existing business, the truth is the status quo isn’t enough. If it were, we wouldn’t need a new strategy. Something isn’t working—whether it’s a current problem or an emerging challenge—and change is necessary. But change doesn’t magically happen in the margins of an already packed calendar. To succeed, we have to intentionally make room for it.